What I’m really annoyed with right now?
I can’t joke about my lack of fitness, that I get out of breath doing small things… because I’m fat.
I can’t joke about what I’m eating, because I am fat.
If I tell a joke about my lack of fitness, I get fitness advice and urged to get fit. If I joke abut…
“my twin sister”
“She’s naturally skinny”
is it me, or is something wrong here? do you have any health condition?
just to be clear: I’m all against body shaming, but I’m also against the “you can’t lose weight thing”
Well, since you asked, I see three things that are wrong here.
One is your assumption that twins are going to have anything more in common with each other, genetically, than any other siblings. If they’re identical twins, yes, they will be genetically identical. If they aren’t, though… well, there’s no rule of the genetic lottery that says two eggs in the uterus at the same time are going to be a matching set. You could be assuming that they’re identical twins, except the OP just told you they have different genes, which means your assumption is rooted in the idea that the OP is wrong wrong wrongety wrong even about something as simple and personal as a relationship to a sibling.
The second thing is that your response to somebody telling you their experience and mentioning their inability to lose weight is to grill them about their health. Is this what you do when someone tells you that they can’t have peanuts, or soy products? “Wait, do you actually have a condition, or is this just an excuse?
Here’s a stat for you: 95% of the population will never achieve serious long term weight loss from any combination of diet and exercise. Every study of the weight loss industry (and it is an industry), none of them ever fail to crack the 95% barrier. They’re peddling a myth, and they’re peddling it so aggressively that we all believe that 95 out of 100 of their customers are horrible failures of human beings rather than accepting that the myth being sold isn’t true.
The odds the OP is right about not being able to lose weight is 95 out of 100, but your response is “Are you sure? Do you have an actual condition?” Yes, it’s called being human and having a normal metabolism, which has several survival mechanisms that allow it to throttle itself permanently downward if it thinks that it’s being starved or worked to death… this is why people who try for weight loss will almost always see an initial success (which helps fuel the myth that weight loss is a matter of trying, and that anybody can do it), followed by slowing of weight loss and a plateau, and then bouncing back, often to a heavier weight. It’s not that everybody inevitably loses their willpower, it’s that they’re playing a game of brinksmanship with their own body that they ultimately lose.
(And no, the answer isn’t to try harder, because ultimately you can get to a point where serious starvation/malnutrition level deprivation isn’t losing weight, and isn’t giving you the energy to do what you need to do throughout the day.)
And the third thing that’s wrong here? sourcedumal already pointed it out. The OP shouldn’t need to lose weight, shouldn’t need to satisfy this societal standard or live the myth of weight loss. Living fat and happy is actually far healthier than yo-yo dieting, and all dieting is yo-yo dieting for 95% of people. But even if a person is not perfectly healthy… well, who is? Everything has its drawbacks. Exercise at the levels and intensity it’s practiced today is far more likely to injure someone and contributes more to aging-type wear-and-tear on the joints than before the fitness fad of the 70s took off. It used to be that doctors wouldn’t recommend that much exercise without a serious, specific reason. Now we act like it’s a moral imperative.
The bottom line is that you can’t tell someone’s diet, level of fitness, or overall health from looking at their body. Odds are that a lot of the fat people around you are eating less than you do, because their metabolism is lower. Or because they’re trying to shed weight to please you. Confirmation bias will make you notice when they’re eating and not think twice when skinny people are because hey obviously fatties eat more, but even the fat people who do eat more? It’s their mouths. It’s their bodies. It’s their business.